Marriage 101: Dealing with her in-laws.......
When you marry the love of your life you'll be marrying her family also. It pays to remember that the reverse is true and that she'll be marrying yours. This doesn't translate into deep and abiding love. As a matter of fact, just as you may find yourself cheerfully gritting your teeth when her family visits, that feeling may be returned when your kin unexpectedly decide to grace the hacienda with their presence. While you may feel it's time to kill the fatted calf in anticipation of generating fond memories for future years......
Her take on the personnel involved might be slightly different....
It's times like this to always remember your wife has chosen YOU in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, till death do you part........ She's your bride and she should come before all others,
that includes your son,
and daughter also.
So when push comes to shove, face up to your family of origin and let them know where you stand. For some of us this might be difficult, our original families can be lacking in warmth, sympathy and understanding at these moments.....
But stand fast, reach within you and unleash that inner Viking you hold. Let him stride forth and be recognized for the man that he is....
Hmmm, nope not that one........
Yeah, that one.
You and your wife will face life together. She's your helpmate, your best friend. Through the trials and tribulations of this vale of tears you two will walk together, supporting one another at all times. As the man you must do the manly things, and always remember if you take care of her...
4 comments:
you're a mess!!
I actually like my wife's family (most of them) more than I can toleratre my own, except for my dad of course, and he's gone.
My mother-in-law was a beautiful Catholic woman with a deep faith and love for God that gave her peace and joy until she went to be with him two years ago. My father-in-law, while curmudgeonly at times, is also a great man, and I respect and care for him greatly.
My family, on the otherhand, is a mixed bag: I'm estranged from my biological father because last year his then 16 y/o son suckerpunched (in the fog of a hangover) (yes, I said a 16 y/o with a hangover) my then 17 y/o son over who was going to ride shotgun. My mother is petulant, bitchy, and causes strife everytime she visits. I can only take her for about 2 weeks at a time. I call her the Wicked Witch of the South. My brother, who I invited to live with us, who I helped get a job, who I only asked for $75/week as a token rent wouldn't pay it - even when I was out of work because he had a gambling and p0rn addiction, and my sister hates everyone. She's 37 and lives with my mother, and doesn't pay rent or any other expenses, yet makes $34K a year - and my mother says she can't make it on her own. But, I supported a house and a family on less.
Be thankful for the family you have - whatever side they come from. It could be worse.
When you find that nymphomaniac widow that owns the liquor store, make sure she is a childless orphan as well.
Subvet, I don't know whether to agree with Mighty Mom or not. All I know is I gotta woman good as she can be who's stuck with me and MY relatives for nearly 31 years. I am sure they wonder what a 21 year old, long blond hair chick wanted with a 28 years divorced cop with a 4 year old but Hey! I got her! Actually my in-laws haven't been that bad, not that good but..... Now my relatives realized I stole the diamond from the mine and fell over themselves trying to get us hooked up. Anyway somethings gotta be said for 30+ years with all the family most of the time.
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